Monday, January 7, 2019

2019 Word of the Year

It seems to be the thing to do now.  Instead of making a resolution, you find a word.  A word to live by for the next 365 days.  

Okay, I'll bite this year.  It's something that's been on my mind.  In fact, I just finished my Christmas post in which I wrote about making the most of these Christmases because I want them forever ingrained in my family's memories.

So, that's my word.  Memories.

Justin and I decided that this year, instead of giving the kids tangible gifts for Christmas (we left that to Santa), we wanted to give them the gifts of memories.  Of experiences.  Of quality family moments throughout the year.

And so, on the first of each month in 2019, the kids will receive an envelope with a new memory-in-the-making - a fun experience (some big, some small) that we will endeavor together.

The reason for this is two-fold.  My kids don't need STUFF.  We're rarely home anyway to play with our toys, and the kids are mostly content with books and the games and activities we do already have.  What the kids DO  need - what we all need - is our family fostering our relationship as best as we can, and what better way to do that then with memorable experiences?

They actually received a bonus envelope - their first envelope was on Christmas (please, it would be torture to make them wait until January 1st to get their gift!).  They received a letter explaining our gift.  In the envelope was also a DVD collection of family-friendly holiday movies (we ended up binging on Elf and then Christmas Story) and some movie passes and a bowling gift certificate to use over our Christmas vacation.  We ended up watching Mary Poppins Returns together on New Year's Day, but time got away from us and we'll go bowling sometime soon.

Started 2019 with a tub of popcorn the size of their faces.

Because I want my kids to remember these memories, I also intend to blog about each month's activities.  It's why I started this blog in the first place - to be able to look back and remember moments.

So here goes.  Happy New Year!  2019, I'm looking forward to it!


All things Christmas-y 2018



 Alas, another Christmas season has come and gone.  And, as usual, it was a busy one.  Some wonder why our holiday schedule is always so jampacked.  At my visit to my doctor (who's children are grown) last week, he said it best:  Christmas just isn't the same once the kids are older.  Sure, it's still Christmas, but the magic isn't quite there anymore.  

And, that's exactly why every year we live it up.  We prepare like crazy for Jesus' birthday and do our festive traditions like gingerbread houses and cookies and Christmas lights and everything else because I want my kids to remember this magical time when they are older.  I, too, want the memories of these Christmases to look back on when they grow up and would rather spend their time with their own friends or electronics because you never know when it will be the last one until it's too late.

It was, of course, getting increasingly more difficult to find the time to do everything we wanted know that we're all at work and school full-time.  We had to strategically plan when we did things based on crowds and work and after school activities.  In fact, Justin and I stared at our calendar for quite a while trying to figure out when to go to Cheekwood's Holiday Lights because he was adamant he didn't want to go on a weekend (too many people around so he wouldn't be able to get good pictures) and between his work schedule, my after school obligations, and the kids' extra-curricular activities, it left us with just one day - a Tuesday that just happened to be ridiculously bitterly cold.  We surprised the kids by taking them to dinner and heading to Cheekwood, and while it was mostly a good time, I could tell the kids were getting tired and cold and starting to get cranky so that by the time we saw Santa, he reminded the kids (well, really Xavier) how important it is to listen to their parents because Santa only comes to well-behaved boys and girls.  We did get some pretty amazing shots, though.  Thanks, Justin!






Of course, we did our service projects to help others in need.  My class at school raised donations for Vanderbilt Children's Hospital, and we dropped the items off one day after school.  Lissie and Xavier also helped me with one of my favorite holiday traditions - filling up Christmas baskets for the area needy.  They were such amazing helpers, willing to do whatever was needed to make sure the baskets were filled with goodies and staples so those less fortunate can have a decent holiday.



We also filled our festivities with a trip to Dollywood to use up the last of our seasons passes, seeing Cirque Holidaze with the family, surprising the kids with hot cocoa and a trip to see Christmas lights, our Christmas baking, and more.  We did Christmas Eve Mass and a Filipino dinner.  Christmas Day was lazy, with our crockpot breakfast casserole to enjoy once the excitement of presents wore off and we spent the remainder of the day playing with our new toys and watching movies.

Decorating the tree - and finally getting an ornament that has Xavier's name on it
(something he has wanted for YEARS)

  

  

Holiday tradition of making their Christmas PJs - 
my favorite pair yet!

It's not bedtime!  It's time for hot cocoa and Christmas lights!

We jetted out of school and to the Smokies the next day!  




Hot-tubbing in the Wilderness at the Smokies


Cirque Holidaze!


Christmas cookies!
My eager helpers
Christmas cookies, Jesus' birthday cake, and tiramisu pie

The Christmas Eve drama of Lolo washing Xavier's tooth down the drain...
but the tooth fairy still visited, along with St. Nick!

She claims this is her favorite gift - a loom that wasn't even on her wishlist. 
Santa truly does know best!


Surprise Christmas gift!

And, ultimately, we did end up with all of that Christmas magic that we were anticipating.  For that, I am grateful because nothing, absolutely nothing, is better than these memories that we can cherish forever.

Family photo after Christmas Eve Mass

So many Santa sightings, it was hard to keep count!  Here are a few pics with the jolly man in red:

Gingerbread party Santa


Santa in the Smokies


I don't even remember where this Santa was from, haha.


Santa was at the Y!

Lastly, I end with this - it's not the best, but it's the best they had at the time of filming.  Lissie and Xavier's first duet: Jingle Bells. 

Happy birthday, Jesus.  Merry Christmas!

Sunday, November 25, 2018

A Family Thanksgiving 2018



Ever since my family moved to Tennessee in 1990, I have always loved Thanksgiving.  Growing up, it usually meant that my Michigan family would come visit - under the premise of seeing us, but we all knew that my Uncle Paul also wanted to get in that one last round of golf thanks to the "warm" Nashville weather.  I have lots of memories as a middle-schooler and high-schooler going Black Friday shopping with my aunts and cousins, getting primarily anything I wanted since we saw each other so infrequently.  I specifically remember scoring a fabulous pair of Doc Marten boots from an aunt when I was a teen and thinking that I was super cool, haha.  Oh, man, and there was also that one Thanksgiving when Justin was introduced to most of my extended family - including my grandmother, the matriarch (and Felicity's namesake) - and she totally made me cry when she basically wanted to tell me all about the birds and the bees, as we walked around Opry Mills, nonetheless.  Good grief.

But my absolute favorite Thanksgiving occurred later when I was a little older, maybe even post-college but when I was still living in DC.  Justin and I both came down for the holiday, along with a huge gathering of aunts, uncles, and cousins.  It was the year of Texas Hold' Em.  Uncle Paul, still in his prime, taught us all how to play, and we stayed up for hours winning, losing, laughing, and just having the best time.  It really was the.BEST.

In the years that followed, we lost our dear Uncle Paul and Uncle Tommy.  The cousins, of course, all got older and now have our own lives and families.  Thanksgiving felt different.  There were a few years in the mix when my cousin Tim came down since he was in college in Louisville, but even that didn't last long.  Most of the time, Thanksgiving was a super low-key event with just us and my parents, some times even lower than low-key when Justin would be working the holiday.  

This year, though, the tables turned.  We decided to go up to Michigan for a change primarily because we had found out that my Uncle Cay's interment ceremony would be that weekend, but also because we hadn't been up in ages.    We drove up Wednesday afternoon since Justin had to work that day and arrived at Auntie Florence's at 3:30am.  After getting a few hours of rest, we woke up on Thanksgiving morning to go to Mass and have a Filipino breakfast back at the house.  The rest of the day was happily quite lazy with naps, games, and a hybrid Filipino-American Thanksgiving dinner with all of my favorites!  On Friday, we checked out Frankenmuth - Bronner's Winter Wonderland and Zehnder's for lunch - before we headed back to Rochester Hills to see Christmas lights and play more games.  The kids learned a family favorite, Spoons.  We also played lots of Uno and a few other card games, too.  And, once we put the kids to bed, we channeled Uncle Paul and relived the "glory days" and played Texas Hold 'Em.
Xavier's late-night car reading while Lissie is late-night car sleeping.
They were so excited to wake up and see snow!  A (sorta) white Thanksgiving!

A Filipino Thanksgiving, for sure:
Dinuguan, pancit, turkey, chicken wings, potatoes, corn caserole, and gravy.

It wouldn't be Thanksgiving without the pies....
and suman and empanadas, haha.


Kare-kare - yum!


At the Silent Night replica chapel in Frankenmuth


Posing with a 500 lb. brick of cheese at Cheese Haus in Frankenmuth


One of many reflective moments that I caught Xavier in throughout the weekend.

The Gingerbread Train at Royal Park Hotel - 
a concoction that Chris helped create!


With the cousins

A rousing game of Spoons


Saturday we trekked to Flint, my birthplace.  We drove through the city, showing Lissie and Xavier the places that were important during my first five years of life.  It is crazy how a city can change.  It truly was unrecognizable, and it made me grateful for how God worked his life plan for us to move to Tennessee.  We ended at the cemetery, where we visited my sister, my cousin, Uncle Tommy, Uncle Paul, and said our last goodbyes to Uncle Cay.  As sad as the occasion was, it was good to see family members whom I haven't seen in ages.  It truly was a reminder that life is short, and family is important.  In fact, some of them are quite insistent that we make another trip back up at Christmas time.  Whew!  We'll see....

Meeting my cousin Tim's newest addition, sweet sweet Sunny.



With cousin Liza

Anyway, after going to vigil Mass on Saturday evening, we went out for pho (again channeling Uncle Paul who introduced us to this tasty Vietnamese soup years ago) before heading back to Rochester for one last night.  We played another round of kid-friendly games before whisking them up to bed.  However, this night was not as easy - they cried so many tears, knowing that we would be leaving bright and early the next morning to head back to reality.  Eventually, of course, they calmed down and went to bed so that Texas Hold 'Em, Round Two could commence.  As always, with my dad in the mix, it made for lots of entertainment and good times.  

Silly Auntie Cat and Xavier
Pho!
We woke up early today, Sunday, to make the 8+ hour drive back home.  Thankfully, the kids are good travelers and only got antsy during the last stretch.  We made it home safely in the late afternoon, with time for me to unpack, start laundry, write this blog, and procrastinate reality just a tiny bit longer.

I guess the point of this post is, of course, a recap of events so I can remember and reminisce later.  But also I just wanted to briefly write about my gratitude.  During this Thanksgiving, I had much to be grateful for.  First and foremost, for my family - our livelihood and health; for my extended Michigan family - for their hospitality and love;  for my faith; for the gift of life.  And, of course, for all of the food.  My tummy will be full for weeks to come, I'm sure.

It absolutely was a happy, happy Thanksgiving.

P.S.  And here are some pics of one of the greatest dogs around, Toby!  A dog who can run on the treadmill, ring a bell to signal to go out, and understand way more words than any of my dogs ever did, it's no wonder that Lissie and Xavier kept singing "All I Want for Christmas is a To-o-by!"




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